Top 8 Dreaded Favors Asked of Web Designers
Long before you officially take the profession of graphic or web designer, your friends and family will support your ambitions by developing your talent. At first, your loved ones inspect your work and if they like what they see, you’ll get flooded with their requests for one page flyers, t-shirt designs, logos, and company websites. When you are just starting out, you welcome their requests because it gives you a chance to grow your skill set as a designer. After all, it’s almost like dealing with real clients, right?
The drama comes when you actually become a full time designer. The friends and family who drew upon your talent during your newbie years are still standing around with their hands out, and now you also must contend with two more groups of favor askers: clients and anonymous foreigners who contact you through Twitter.
Here are 8 of the most common and eye-rollingly annoying favors all designers encounter at one point or another. For ease of reference, we’ll call the offending party “Dude.”
1. “Hey, can you take a look at my site and tell me what you think?”
At first glance, this seems like a harmless five to ten minute project. Dude asks for your opinion, and you both know that you are an esteemed and dedicated design pro. You optimistically click on his website link, and you’re teleported back in 1998 with a Geocities-reminiscent design so horrifying it makes MySpace look professional. After you try hard not to lose all respect for Dude, you carefully suggest that he get rid of the Flash intro. You are then met with an uncomfortable defensiveness, where Dude refuses to accept your professional advice.
Lesson learned: Decipher whether your friend is looking for actual advice or just a pat on the back.
2. “Um, would you mind designing my site… for free?”
It’s shocking how many people feel truly entitled to a free web design. If you’ve ever had the pleasure of introducing yourself as a web designer, you may notice the wheels instantly starting to turn in your acquaintance’s mind. Everyone, even those without any product or any relevant thing to say, want, demand and need a website. These are the people, especially, who will want such a website produced for free. They may lure you with the distant hopes they use to fuel their own insanity: “Once I get some visitors, I’ll direct them to your services” (Standard practice, regardless).
Lesson learned: Limit your charity cases to those you can do in your free time and only do it for charity because the only reward you’ll reap is psychological.
3. “Can you help me design my site to look like ______?”
This request is closely related to the first two requests. Perhaps Dude has taken it upon himself to designed a website, already had a moment of epiphany and now realizes that it sucks. At least you’re on the same page. Then comes, “I’d like my site to look just like Avatar. You know, all 3D and stuff.” Once you realize that Dude is serious, another realization also sinks in. If you take on this “consulting” project, all of your time and energy will be engulfed by this vortex, and you won’t be getting paid for your trouble. What’s the solution? Direct Dude to Yahoo! Answers? No, he’ll never go for that, because this is a top secret idea.
Lesson learned: Find your inner ineptness and apply it to this situation. Feign ignorance, suggest peripheral design ideas such as blue color palettes and wait for your friend to get bored of the idea and come to his senses.
4. “I think I have a virus.”
No one likes to hear these words, and if someone’s sharing this information with you, they usually want one of two things: sympathy or help, sometimes both. When you hear these words come from a client, you must assume they are referring to a computer virus (let’s hope). This your client’s passive/ aggressive way of getting you to offer assistance. If you, wisely, remain silent, he or she will shamelessly ask you for your help. Just because you work in front of your computer all day does not mean that you qualify for tech support. You have to Google things just like everyone else.
Lesson learned: Get the courage to finally direct someone to Let Me Google That For You. However, for professional relationships, avoid the snark and actually lightly research the problem, but make no promises and waste no longer than 15 minutes.
5. “Let me help you with any of your extra work.”
This favor comes in the form of a donated favor. In other words, Dude is suggesting that he’s doing you a favor, when he’s actually just trying to get paid. One morning you open your email box, and there’s an email from some dude you’ve never heard of. He wants you to lend him some of your work. Depending on your level of job-related stress, you may be inclined to offer him some work, but what’s this? No portfolio? No website? No spell-check. Wait, is Dude even located in the same hemisphere as you?
Lesson learned: You get what you pay for.
6. “So, it’s been a minute… How much longer is it going to take?”
Just when you’ve got your Good Samaritan on and decided to help Dude during your free time, he starts becoming a diva. Never mind the impossible requests to make his website look just like *let your imagination run wild on this one,* or the countless revisions to a perfectly designed logo, or the endless hours you spent over IM trying to explain why putting an invisible list of keywords at the bottom of the webpage is unnecessary. When you least expect it, expect to receive a phone call, email, direct tweet saying, “Hey, so, um… when’s the project going to be finished?” You reply back, “Dude, I told you I was going to fit this in between my actual work from actual clients that actually pay.” To this, Dude replies, “I didn’t think it was going to take this long, maybe I should just get this professionally done.” Oh, that’s a killer. First of all, Dude has no consideration for the amount of time you’ve invested in this project. Secondly and more importantly, you are a professional. Why not offer you money so that you can prioritize his project?
Lesson learned: Clearly state from the beginning that it will take you some ridiculously long amount of time to complete the project for free and if Dude’s still on board, he’ll be happy if you finish it sooner than expected.
7. “Can I use your server until I get my own hosting?”
What’s so wrong about this request? You have extra space and you can afford the bandwidth. The problem is that Dude will never get his own hosting, and eventually he’ll forget about his site. A year later, you’ll remind him, “Hey Dude, you know you still have your stuff on my server? I’m moving to another server, so is it alright if I get rid of it? You have a back up, right?” Dude will do one of two things: he’ll respond with indignant anger, upset that you’re rushing him to get his act together or he’ll pretend to be okay with it, all the while, holding a grudge.
Lesson learned: Friends don’t let friends use their servers.
8. “Hey, I volunteered you to re-do my co-worker’s step-daughter’s wedding album.”
You can replace this with any task in which your mom volunteers your services for free. It’s always lovely to deal with someone who’s happy to accept your honest labor for free, because we all know they won’t make any unreasonable demands. The most difficult part of this ordeal is having to contend with your mother in her role as the merciless middleman who nags you for quality, timeliness and her good reputation.
Lesson learned: Grin and bear it? There’s no real way to avoid this nightmare.
What are some of the most annoying favors your friends and family have asked from you?
Related Posts
Here's some other articles that you will definitely find useful.










146 comments
Amber Weinberg
March 9, 2010I get hit with number 5 a lot, sometimes I even have to end up turning off my IM programs, because I get a bunch of students asking for advice, without even introducing themselves first or asking if I’m busy :/
Alice Dagley
March 9, 2010For me the most annoying thing is to listen to such words as “we are start up”, “we are short of money”, “our budget is less than $15”. As a rule I try to avoid working with such clients not to waste time.
To spare yourself such troubles fix your quote per hour and don’t take a penny less. It will help you to save your time and earn more money as well as to get rid of the annoying requests first, last and all the time.
Jeff Golenski
March 12, 2010Lol. Our budget is less than $15
Thomas
March 18, 2010I learned another important lesson. Charge by the hour, and ALWAYS invoice monthly. Never wait or negotiate for payment, at launch or when the site is operational.
ALWAYS invoice every month – and stop working if client does not pay in – say 14 days.
kevin
March 9, 2010ahaha so true, already had them all.
gamel
March 9, 2010classic
Kien
March 9, 2010nice list, but you forgot one more: can you make me look thinner in this picture?
Jessica
March 10, 2010OMG Kien! I have done that for sooo many people! lol
Jessica
March 9, 2010Great post. I was getting indignant just reading them
Mark
March 10, 2010Love the list, however you forgot one. The most dreaded favor I get asked from me is if they can see a sample of what the website WOULD look like. In other words they want me to design a spec site for them before they even lay down a dollar. WHAT??!!
Mrender
March 10, 2010Yup!!!
Henrique Erzinger
March 10, 2010haha The majority of those I resolve with pure rudeness.. People say that I’m a complete strange towards – paying – clients. xD”
dr john
March 10, 2010Looks like you forgot possibly the commonest request of all “And I’d like to appear at the top of google when people search on , please.”
I had a client who told me that his supplier complained continually that I had got my client’s site above his in google, even though my client said he should pay me to improve his site. And that I should tell google to put his at the top. Tell google… yes, even my client burst out laughing at this apparently and it didn’t do their relationship much good.
That Graphic Guy
April 20, 2010Oh I love the Google rank question the most.
Weby Life
March 10, 2010Interesting By reading this post I have saved myself such situations
Shannon
March 10, 2010These are so true! I’ve never had my mom or any relative volunteer me for free work, thank goodness, but I’ve definitely been asked about all kinds of technical and computer issue support. Great post
alan boyd
March 10, 2010Great article. I have learned the hard way on most of these.
Paying customers are out there. Don’t start ANY designing until Dude gets you a deposit.
Usually #1 is the gateway question that ends up leading to all the others besides #5. Once you do something for free, you train Dude to expect more stuff for free in the future.
Jay
March 10, 2010Yep that pretty much sums it up. A good resolve to #7, though would be to charge “Dude” for hosting.
Jessica
March 10, 2010I was once getting a massage, and had the masseuses start telling me about this charity website she was working on, and asking for my help. lol
Chris Janus
March 10, 2010ha! too funny! (and all too true unfortunately…)
along the lines of #4, i definitely get asked things like “what camera/PDA should i buy?” or “how do i set up my email on my new iPhone?”
Mrender
March 10, 2010This list is great, I don’t know why people think designers can fix computers too. If it ain’t Photoshop, then I don’t know how to do it.
Pixeltweak
April 11, 2010Far too true.
Reno Web Design
March 10, 2010Good list! One I hate the most is: “I’m not sure if I like the copy… can I see it in the design?”
Bill
March 10, 2010Similar to point #7 is, “Dude, could you handle the purchase of my domain and hosting plan?”
Of course you know the ropes, and it’s easy for you, but just try to get “Dude” to go through the transfer of ownership when he’s already too lazy to walk through the initial steps.
I speak hypothetically of course. (NOT!!!!!)
Tom Something
March 10, 2010My Non-Horror Story
A friend recently asked if I would take a look at her employer’s website. I reluctantly gave my critique, focusing on areas that could be improved. My “client” was thrilled and very appreciative.
The stars sort of aligned themselves on that one. First, they were already considering a redesign and really did want a critique, which, as you mentioned, is ideal. Second, the entire exchange took place via e-mail, affording me the opportunity to choose my words very carefully and be constructive, not mean.
I think I opened with something like “You offer a great service, and there are a lot of things I really like about the site you have now, but because I want to be helpful, I’m going to focus on areas where I think it could be even better.”
This is a nice way to start things off, even if you really hate their current site.
Webatvantage
March 11, 2010haha, this sounds very familiar
Nick Pettit
March 11, 2010Usually when people ask for favors like this, I send them over to Squarespace, WordPress, or Tumblr. Usually that’s all they really need.
Memphis Web Design
March 12, 2010Oh, so many of these ring true. I’m never surprised when an odd request comes in, but the variety keeps getting better and better.
bethany
March 12, 2010my other favorite:
http://theoatmeal.com/comics/computers
“why it’s better to pretend you don’t know anything about computers.”
Jeremy Bayone
March 12, 2010True…8 out of 10 times you have a new lead, one of these “favors” gets asked
Zach
March 12, 2010Awesome! So true… I don’t know how many times I’ve sent people the “let me google that for you” link. Great, Humorous Post!
wings
March 12, 2010lol if you don’t live with your mom it’s easy to say no
rod rodriguez
March 14, 2010hehehehe, this article hits the spot i can definitely see myself in Nos 1 and 3
Peter Brazier
March 14, 2010A different approach to the “mom giving your work away for free” is when your friend tells you that there friend is starting out and wants a e-commerce website with lots of social networking apps and is willing to pay for it, you get extremely excited and contact the friend of a friend with an offer only for them to say “oh well Dude said you would do it for half the price”
or of course there the dreaded “you always need experience, and it will look great on your portfolio”
David Adorno
March 14, 2010My mother came home from a missions trip to the Dominican Republic and tells me I’m doing a site for a missionary there. My first thought is “geez this guy can’t have money”. I was right, she told him I’d do it for free. I was very upset, but, I told my mom she better start typing and doing as much as she can, and to NEVER offer my services for free again. Love her but hate that.
Mark
March 14, 2010My biggest annoyance is a combination of #1 and #2. People, not close enough to be called good friends, are too cheap to spend money on design/dev for their half-baked e-commerce idea or husband’s political campaign. They try to do it themselves, but they are shocked to find out that my chosen profession requires skill, knowledge, creativity, and commitment.
It’s quite demeaning that they assume that anyone can start doing my job with just 8hrs of self-instruction. And then they want free help to fix their spawn of satan.
I suppose I should start treating my healthcare and legal issues the same way… I’ll begin my surgery myself, and then ask for free help over the phone.
Fiat Knox
March 14, 2010This is why I tell people at parties that I bake cakes for a living.
It pays to research the fine art of bakery in advance, though, in case somebody calls you on the difference between a Battenberg and a Schwarzwaldertorte though – but at least when you’re invited to someone’s home for the night, you won’t be spending it trying to set up someone’s website for them.
Don Rathbun
March 14, 2010Great. Perfect. One more I get: “I bought this Template, and all it needs is …”
Jules
March 14, 2010What about when Dude says they’ve got a website for me to do (for free) to build up my portfolio – isn’t Dude thoughtful wanting to do me such a favour.
Adam
March 14, 2010#2 Hypocritical considering it doesn’t look like they paid the photographers for the photos used in the story.
Dave
March 14, 2010Love it! There is one more “Hey, if I get you more clients will you do my site for free?”
Brata Web Media
March 15, 2010Wow, yes, we can relate to all of these. Very nice list.
Glenn Sorrentino
March 15, 2010#2 comes A LOT from friends with businesses. The tightness in the chest is creeping in….
Chad
March 15, 2010What about the “LATE HIT”. “I love the site but, I was wondering if you can do ________ as a favor. It will really mean the world to me.”
ARRGG!!!
Chad
March 15, 2010Leave the “B” words out of the conversation!
Chad R. Smith
March 16, 2010This is hilarious! I couldn’t agree more that this happens, but imagine when you tell someone you meet that you are a “Website application programmer” then you really get to see the wheels turning. I do some charity work (Habitat for Humanity, local clubs in my area) but I do limit them to 1 a year. I’m busy as it is and when I talk to my designer friends I tend to be specific and know what can (and can’t) be done with the web. I made an API that accesses multiple API’s with one easy call because it helps me code faster and I can get more projects out the door. It’s found at http://theeasyapi.com and there are free accounts.
Brilliant article, and thanks for the laugh!
Rachel
March 17, 2010I think everyone can relate to #2. Here’s my story:
Farm shop man: What do you do?
Me: Websites
Farm shop man: If I order in a pumpkin for you will you give me a thorough critique of my website?
Me: Er… OK
Farm shop man: But I’ll still charge you for the pumpkin.
James Chapman
March 17, 2010“Can you do this website cheap/for free, there’ll be lots more work in future!”
Vialano
March 17, 2010These are so true! Great article.
Thomas
March 18, 2010Nice list, but my most common question has been. Can you help me get noticed on Google?
People who ask this are typically selfbuilders who use native programs for the first time, deciding to just oursource SEO to you – for free. Those are the WORST kind.
The site will suck no matter what – are you work on it for free.
sitka
March 21, 2010LOVE IT! That was hilarious…. i’ve received most of this in different forms… so funny, but probably only for web designers……
Adam Hermsdorfer
March 21, 2010Classic list. For the past 2 years, I literally get 1 call a week asking me to do it for free in exchange for ownership. My best advice is to have a minimum (which is not free) and stick to your threshold.
bee
March 23, 2010Soooo true! Even though I’m just a hobby wordpress user I made… let’s count them… 5 Websites during the last months. Not only the installation and the teaching how to use it… no, guess who spent hours searching the right theme b/c my aquaintences didn’t want to pay for it…
Will email this list instantly to several friends of mine (who do their websites on their own
).
Damian Smith
March 25, 2010This post amused me, the dude character is someone I have met many times before! When I first started out I did all my websites for free (friends & family etc), I had to learn somehow I guess. But as I got better, people realised that their sites were now not as good as they could be so I would get the “can you just update my site a little” questions flooding in!
The most typical question i get nowadays though is the “can you get me onto Google?” I usually tell them there is no guarantee but I can build your site in a way where you would have a better chance etc…. 2 weeks later “I’m still not on Google, whats going wrong?”
The joys of being a web designer!
McBonio
March 26, 2010My favourite “dude” was a chap that dropped me an email requesting a free site and mentioned a number of other top designers where competing to make his site for him!
I just mailed back, “wow great list of names, any of them would make you a fantastic site!”
squareart
April 7, 2010So funny, and alas so true! Dude: “Could you JUST add….. I’m sure it wont take long”.
JUST is a word to often used far too lightly!
Tammy Finch
April 12, 2010After 12 years of doing this, it’s still the same old thing. I’m glad you guys are dealing with it too. I get #2 all the time, or people try to haggle. I cringe every time my colleague refers a “client”. They always start out by saying, “I don’t have much (really means none) money”
I have helped more people than I can count but after a while, you have to just mind your business and not try to help everyone. (for free)
This is the first time I’ve been to this site. Nice to see some more designers and see we are all dealing with the same issues.
That Graphic Guy
April 20, 2010Great/Funny post! It was the perfect top off to a long and not so fun day!